tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-78965491093354785272024-03-05T15:36:00.591+08:00A Journey Back to Self as Life 一個回到自己如同生命的旅程Tanya Chouhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04975074106657567552noreply@blogger.comBlogger826125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7896549109335478527.post-7469412529880469692017-06-27T11:13:00.002+08:002017-06-27T11:13:39.124+08:00Day 632—為什麼暫停 生活收入保證<div class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; mso-pagination: widow-orphan;">
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<span lang="EN-US">5.</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">我的脾氣不好,但至少我將我自己完全表達出來</span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">6.</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">我這樣的對他直接表達憤怒,是因為我認為他是最親近的人最信任他,但他卻看不到,只看到自己的自卑,那是我沒法幫他看到的</span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">--</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">我自己也了解脾氣本身是會造成他人的痛苦的,而且我也不喜歡他人對我發脾氣,卻讓自己任意的發洩出來</span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">--</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">所以我也要問我自己,在壞脾氣之中我真的愛對方嗎</span><span lang="EN-US">? </span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">那麼我經常無法愛對方和愛我自己,為什麼對方要堅持跟我在一起</span><span lang="EN-US">?</span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US"> </span><span style="color: #e36c0a; font-family: 新細明體, serif;">解決問題</span><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #e36c0a;">: </span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">我的前夫離開我是因為我的脾氣不好</span></div>
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Tanya Chouhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04975074106657567552noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7896549109335478527.post-29804663093236352162017-03-19T09:39:00.002+08:002017-03-19T09:39:50.428+08:00Day 626—衝突中說道理<div class="MsoNormal">
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<span lang="EN-US">As I am changing myself in real time in
this process while been taken over through the mind pattern, I found a
situation that is within those things seemed easily to change, and after I
thought I had made a correction and walked out of the pattern and then
experienced several times of the similar situation, for example the same
picture and inner conversation, then I told myself what I have been realized,
and I put it down, thought it had been changed and alright, but then afterwards
because of the triggering from another similar stimulus, I found the same
energetic manifested pattern became even harder to transcend, so I have to use
more longer time to face and deal with the situation. Now I would like to
illustrate about how it goes this way a bit. </span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">Firstly, when a pattern showed up, I thought
I had done all the relevant deconstruction through writing , however I still
neglected another layer of the structure. For example, when someone A talked to
me about how B had achieved something, I felt uncomfortable and at the moment I
saw this is because I compared myself to B and created the competition and thus
that was the jealousy construct, thus I went deal with all that construct
towards B as possible. However after the dealing the same picture of A talking
to me is still coming up with the negative energy, then I believed I had done
forgiveness and thus I could release the energy more easily and yes it seemed I
did, but after several times of doing this, I found the next time when A came
to me and talked about the similar thing of B again, then I found more energy
coming and even faster and I could just react right away towards A. Then after
that I finally found I had also created hostility towards A for what A did to
me but didn’t find it and thus never deal with that before.</span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">Thus from here I know when the patterns and
points I thought was deconstructed thoroughly coming up again, I could have
seen it earlier that if there is any other layers that didn’t deal with,
because the part hadn’t been dealt with is getting more energy within itself
and waiting for the personality reaction to be triggered.</span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">Also I observed when a patter or point has
been deconstructed, though there would be still some memories and pictures
coming up through the triggering by the similar stimuli, there won’t be much
energy charge within it, and it won’t coming up so often within a short period
of time, and won’t make me to be aware and find it only in a relatively latter time,
therefore when the memory shows up too frequently and not so easy to be
detected, it means there are some layers that I haven’t dealt with yet.</span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">And, when I made myself stayed in some
memory and then noticed the pattern then stopped I need to be aware that the
energy dimension been released too, since if I thought it can be stopped and
changed easily then it would be fine, but there is still energy suppressed
within the body, I probably just shifted my attention instead of completely
released the pattern or point, so it can be accumulated and would become a
bigger reaction from some other stimulus or trigger points in the future.</span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">So these are some observations in relation
to real time change to remind myself and the final thing I know is no matter what
other situation that would cause the real time change not so effective, I should
just keep going to correct and change.</span></div>
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Tanya Chouhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04975074106657567552noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7896549109335478527.post-81649156572855954432017-01-21T09:26:00.000+08:002017-01-21T09:26:04.678+08:00Day 622—容易改變的小事<div class="MsoNormal">
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">在我現階段盡可能地在被心智模式接管的當下改變自己的進程中,發現到一個現象,就是在那些看來容易改變的小事裡面,當我以為輕易的做了改變而走出這個模式之後,同時往後也經歷過了幾次的這樣的情形,例如同樣的畫面和內在對話,然後我告訴自己已經領悟的事情,然後放下,以為已經沒有事情了,卻在後面因為另一個刺激的引發,發現同樣的模式竟然又成為難輕易超越的能量顯化,於是必須再次使用較長的時間面對處理的情形。現在分析了解一下這個過程是怎麼一回事。</span></div>
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Tanya Chouhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04975074106657567552noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7896549109335478527.post-33710758039090120102016-11-23T08:52:00.000+08:002016-11-23T08:52:39.876+08:00Day 620—我的上台經驗 3<div class="MsoNormal">
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<span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">在這期間我有一個到佛光山演講的經歷。當時的任務是要面對百位的出家眾講演如何在對外助人過程中處理自己的情緒議題,也就是心理學中的界限</span><span lang="EN-US">/</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">界域問題,當時我心中有的疑慮是,那時我能夠看到佛學也已經能將這道理說明得完全,難道出家眾們仍不了解這些知識道理嗎?而且修行的人不是也正是實踐佛學的人們嗎?但又認識到他們會邀請心理專業的人士演講就顯示他們也同時需要這方面的角度或語彙來協助他們從事助人的工作,因此我便放下心正常的準備內容,當天見到出家眾們分享了自己的經驗和領悟後,才發現到其實他們和一般人對於心理狀態的瞭解和領悟狀態是幾乎一樣的,僅有少數較認真於領悟和實踐佛學者能夠和我的演講內容和產生連結和共鳴。也就是說,我同時了解到,即使許多人們已經做了人生當中似乎重要的抉擇如同出家修行,並不一定代表這些人們願意實踐一些有關的教導,僅僅是選擇了一種看起來不同的生活型態罷了。這個現象更令我了解到我正意欲推廣的心理知識和一些解決方式,知道的且真正有興趣並且能實踐的人們實在不多,縱使許多的途徑和方式已經在這個世界呈現。</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">之間我繼續嘗試在不同的場合對不同的對象演講,有各級學生,中小學老師,社會人士,對公務員的訓練,醫院專業人員,公益機構團體,公司企業等等,雖然演講的內容結構主軸是大同小異的,但是每回上台前後也仍常在不同程度的焦慮中,只是隨著經驗的增多和自信增長,我的準備期越來越短少,焦慮程度也越來越降低。當中有一個有趣的現象,便是在演講生涯早期的時候,我就已經觀察到了一件事情,那便是在初期的時候,或許準備的越充分熟練,對於表現越是有幫助,但是我也了解到,當我能夠真實的克服了一切不必要的焦慮之後,我甚至完全不需要事前的準備,反而能夠令我最真實的在當下呈現出最豐富而真實而完整的自己,也就是說,焦慮本身就僅是阻礙,它令我花上許多不必要的精神和時間做準備,當我不再需要它的時候,也就是我可以在即興的當下表現最好的時候,那便是我要到達的那個目標。但在到達那之前,我必須更充分的實踐我多年來所累積和貫通的知識。</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">一直到我最近的幾場演講,甚至在千人的場合中,我觀察到我已經幾乎能夠做到在上台前後維持著的穩定情緒和表現水準。除了持續的充實自己和練習之外,在這幾年因為了解到更多關於心智意識系統的結構和知識以及找到真正的解除那固執情緒的方法,而能夠確實的使用工具加以實踐。同時也因為確認了關於生命的真相和答案如同就是在物質現實的此處,對於我要傳達的事物更有了絕對的依據,因為在通達實踐生命的任務中,焦慮恐懼等等的情緒實無絲毫立足的理由,而我所要傳達的關於走向完滿的生活與生命的訊息的目的便是得在自己的層面不斷超越和以身作則的,也就是確實做到我所說的就是我正在執行的。這些都對我能夠達到自已在上台方面的理想目標有著終極的幫助。</span> </div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">因此在大學時代我奠基了上台演講的態度和使命的應用實踐,這情況在到了美國念研究所的時候又有了額外的挑戰,在美國我念的是歐陸哲學取向的心理學,那時我的英語程度除了讀寫的基本水準以外,是聽力不佳也幾乎不敢與人對話的,那是口語的英文和學術的英文的應用方面的差異,當時觀察到很有趣的一點是,我發現雖然日用英文上有困難,但是在哲學與心理學的理解上卻是優越的,那時候念的海德格與黑格爾哲學對許多母語是英文的同學而言也幾乎像是外國語言。故此在這個優勢上,一次介紹黑格爾的精神現象學的同組報告中,同學老師們都很驚訝的發現我這個平時英語破破的同學,竟然是他們唯一能夠聽懂解說這個學問的人。由這個經驗中,我學習到,甚至在不精熟的語言使用中,只要能夠充分的理解自己要講的內容和邏輯,事前有足夠的在表達清析上的工作和演練,那麼對於演講的表現就可以有所把握。</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">回國的第一個工作是在少年法院的觀護人室做心理輔導,那時的工作內容包含一項帶領整個心理系實習生團隊的月會討論,記得那對我而言是甚大的壓力,僅是報告一些簡單的事項和工作實務的說明所要耗費的能量是可以成為生活負擔的程度,我很清楚自己要表達的內容,原因也不在於任何現實上的威脅,而在於我個人在成長時期長期的壓抑自己的表達的經驗,以致於當我真實有機會去說明自己的時候,所有的一切創傷經驗再度對我身體造成一次次巨大負擔,但當時的我僅僅是知道過去經驗確實會帶來的恐怖的負面感受,卻沒有可以有效徹底解構的工具,於是因應的方式便僅只是去每回硬著頭皮迎向這個難受和挑戰,企圖用經驗來說服我自己,上台分享本身不是問題,而我必須要一再由現實中實踐出來的證據來說服我自己真相是如何。在這之前,我也已經完全領悟和接受了一些過去的觀察,那就是,既然我能夠正常說話而且許多人能夠做到成功的在台上表現自己,那麼已經顯示了我可以做到,那會是漸進式的,而且,問題總是有解決的方式和時候。</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">接下來的一次大的挑戰便是面對百位榮譽觀護人的演講,講題是關於青少年發展的特質,我決定也利用這次演講提醒觀護人們關於過度倚賴心理測驗及其他有限的工具來檢視青少年所產生的限制與後果,那時我了解自己在這個演講中唯一的重點在令觀眾清晰的瞭解我要傳達的重點,但也知道我自己個人在焦慮恐懼情緒上對我的演講可能造成的干擾,於是我使用的策略便是,用一個月時間將演講稿一字一句斟酌的寫出來並經過無數次的修改調整,預備在演講當時全程用朗讀的方式來呈現。那時我也聽過許多關於出色的演講不應使用講稿等等的說法,但那是我當時在自己有限的能力下所能夠在我最原始的目標中找出的唯一可行方式,於是我就這麼上場了,穿上了我的整套西裝和整潔的化妝,在台上盡可能清晰自然的念出我的講稿,同時記得不時抬頭看到全場的人,雖然這樣簡單許多,我的焦慮仍然高張,總算因為依靠著在我眼前的文字能夠使我維持在某種程度的穩定中,但當我念完了演講稿,出乎意料的,得到全場不止一次的響亮掌聲,之後觀護人們開始熱烈的討論,我發現自己因為仍耽溺和僵硬在焦慮中而無法輸入訊息及放鬆的回應,但觀眾們已經互相在積極的為彼此溝通並解答疑問,故此經驗我仍視之為一場相當成功的發表,只是因為我最初的目的已經達成,事後觀護人們甚至要求得到我的演講稿來給自己時間弄清楚我的觀點的整體脈絡。</span></div>
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Tanya Chouhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04975074106657567552noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7896549109335478527.post-1810575240011754902016-10-16T12:05:00.000+08:002016-10-16T12:05:39.781+08:00Day 617—A Suppression Analysis<div class="MsoNormal" style="background: white; mso-pagination: widow-orphan;">
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ago I found I can really stop myself to participate in a deep seated design of
a mind construct with a close relationship of my family within awareness, and
so within this transcending process I could see more details of dimensions from
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when the family member were making some expression which I would always react
internally or externally, however after a decision and application to
thoroughly deconstruct it, this time as I saw the similar expression beside me
happening, I stood within my body and watch the whole thing, but nothing
happened within, and the event was still going, and I was still breathing, and
then decide there is no need to respond but still listening, and I check myself
within, found I just stopped there, without any suppression, and this is the
moment I realize what is a real stop without suppression. It seemed that I could
realize everything in a quantum moment and thus knew well there is no need to
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within this process I observed how my suppression could be happened in about 5
levels of the mind reaction layers. The first layer is the value and judgment
from the interpretation, blaming, projection towards others, for example: “he
should not say something like that within his anxiety and lacking of
information, which would make people feeling uncomfortable”. The second layer
would be some mind constructs of self-victimization and self-judgment etc.,
like I had been feeling bad and judging myself in the similar circumstances and
so reacted to the memories, experiences, pictures, conclusions and so on, for
example: a picture with of this person yelling at me and I stood there feeling
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level would be the judgment and reaction towards the previous 2 reactions, it
became the suppression of the mind reaction through the knowledge and
information. For example, “I should not produce this reaction of blaming others
and connect the past memory and experience”.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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level is when the moment I found I had constricted myself, then further again, to
judge and react to this constriction reaction, believing that I should not
suppress myself, and within this I would make a misconception as conclusion
that I should not suppress myself in any way whatsoever, I should let it all
out, otherwise I was producing more of the mind energy accumulating on my body.
It as a misconception because this is still a value system with energy,
meanwhile we don’t want to let the emotion go as it is as the personality
pattern, but to stand within the emotional energy to transcend the energy, so I
can express myself about the process clearly within communication. For example,
I am not going to manifest the anger and blaming others, but to back to the
breathing and stop the inner process, then I can explain to others how I feel
within myself about what happened and what is that all about. Of course there
are other options like I could note it down to deal with them afterwards
depending on the situation. However as long as I didn’t deconstruct the mind
pattern or at the moment create myself in the physicality, it would be more or
less in a way and an extent of suppression, if you will.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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level is coming from the misunderstood interpretation on the last level,
because within it I have seen if I just let go of my emotions as they are there
would be consequences, therefore I just jump into an ideal solution model as I
believed no matter what, and still it is the manifestation of value and energy
within the knowledge and information. For instance, I right away respond to and
support the other, however though the correction itself looked perfect, but it
actually became an over-reaction and in fact suppressed the previous inner
process, the reaction could be so fast to not allow myself to see clearly what
was inside the process, but still could feel the pressure within the body and
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levels of the mind pattern are always go together, unless to really stop or
deal with or change them right the moment as it happens, otherwise the suppression
took the place, sometimes it stayed on the third or fourth level or even went
to the fifth level like I was going through, and from there I could see how I
just automatically accumulate the mind pattern through all the knowledge and value
and judgment mind system instead of really live those as living words and so suppress
myself layer after layer and leave the consequence to my body.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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I had stopped the deep seated mind pattern attached to the family member, I
could in afterwards when I was facing a similar situation, at the moment as the
external stimuli set off to be aware of any little movement and right away stop
myself within breathing, and leave myself enough space and time to practically
respond to the situation which would be best for everyone. And from my
experiences the external stimuli as the mind trigger point would be eventually
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<span lang="EN-US"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Starting from 5 years ago and only stopping
the most obvious reaction from hot flash, to treat it with medical treatment
since last year, to really face and observe and investigate everything from and
into it and deal with it accordingly since 5 months ago, till now I am almost
not been affected by the almost diminished symptom, yes, I stopped the symptom before
through medicine but not in a systematical way and taking the responsibility to
the extend as this time.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Therefore, within these processes, I have
gone through quite much mind reactions and design and learned things from them,
and through all these I also found I become even more sensitive or I can say
intimate to my body condition, not only that I can detect some mild pains and
the movement in my solar plexus, I also had this experience and confidence to
trace back my mind process within it so I can give myself chance to deconstruct
them, and when I meet some bigger body effect, I would follow a rather stable
process to deal with them as possible. However, all needs the first step of
willing to see for myself and to walk the process constantly and consistently
with discipline to provide self the chance to walk into this stage and continue
the process to the next. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Also what had been going on here is also
this tendency of mine that I would always want to fulfill my learning goal
through a realistic and systematic way and then really applied them step by step
to reach the goal. And within it I am aware of that it is always in a way an
experiment of myself within which I would get a temporary conclusion from what
I gathered and then tested it and cross referenced it and sometimes when I got
more information I would adjust my way of doing it if it is seen to be
necessary, and thus I mean I had applied it within this process of dealing with
the hot flash, and since now I only dealing with them from what I realized,
then I might integrate more and correct myself in the future. Therefore here I am
mentioning and sharing this process so people could make it a reference for
their own experience or experiment.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">I recalled in the early stage when I had
observed something from my hot flash and found some effect on dealing with it,
my DIP course buddy reminded me to share the process with people since there
are so many people are encountering this situation. I bore that in mind but
knew I was not ready for that since I figured I still need some more
observation to see if the diminishing of the symptom is really in relation to what
I have done to stop the mind and body reaction, and the connection between the symptom
and the mind pattern is still uncertain and I knew I can do more about it. So,
after another several months’ information gathering and working, I finally had
enough feedback to share the result with people. Within this process I also
meet a point to learn and realize instead of expecting more from people and
myself, here can be a place where I just got enough to share. Thus here it is.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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</span>Tanya Chouhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04975074106657567552noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7896549109335478527.post-73657337933416152542016-09-13T19:12:00.004+08:002016-09-13T19:12:53.335+08:00Day 614—How I use my hot flash to support myself 7<div class="MsoNormal">
<span lang="EN-US">Day 614—How I
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<span lang="EN-US">One thing that I reveal for myself within
the process is that there are actually multiple processes we can move ourselves
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<span lang="EN-US">Sometimes before I watched people busy on
looking for the mind source for a body condition then I had this question
coming up that why bother to find the sources of body symptoms, because they
can be everything from multiple dimensions of mind system and through walking
the process we are going to deconstruct everything after all! At the same time
I was actually lacking this experience and confidence to deal with those old
symptoms and body pains, I was too familiar with them already as consequence
for so many decades, and it seemed I can still get along with them “so far so
good”, and the sources of the conditions are such “huge issues”, can I really
manage those issues after I got something about them? Thus I did not see that a
path as an option for me. However, providing myself enough information and time
to work with myself, now I see it actually can be a parallel process.</span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">In the stage of the observation from my hot
flashes, I had seen that within the days indulging myself with full of
thoughts, the symptom would be more serious than the days I had much less mind
activities. Thus, yes, if I can just stop everything, things would become much
easier. So, then, obviously I didn’t just stop the mind activities effectively on
daily basis. Except my own responsibility for the mind functions, I realized it
still needs a process to allow myself some more experiences as applications,
feedback, evidences, cross references, then the confidence from those
experiences and also more of the clarification from information and the
relations between things, until I went to this point that I was ready to
conduct something more.</span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">Then now with some more experiences and
confidence through my process, and with all the information and clarification
in relation to my hot flash, I came to the point to see and realize this is
where I am ready for facing this body consequence to assist myself, I saw the
symptoms can be served as immediate feedback for how I could effectively stop
my personality patterns on daily basis, so I then applied everything I learned and
obtained from everywhere to solve problems for myself. As I can really see how
I practically change myself to diminish the symptom, I realize this practice
actually supports my entire process. </span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">I know it is not I must need such body
conditions to support myself, nor should I wait until something become serious
and unbearable then I found I must do something about it, actually as adults we
all had something or another on the body to remind us what we had done to
ourselves, and thus can through the symptoms to walk the process even faster,
and from common sense we know it would take longer to change if overlook what
has been manifested on body, thus even the mild body conditions can always reminds
us to discipline ourselves more.</span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">Further, with the fact that some long-term
bodily consequence were formed through time, we might not terminate them so
effectively in a short period of time, like now I am on the way cease the hot
flash by using hormone treatment, it then would no longer become the feedback
for how I deal with the relationships and other things, thus what always there
support myself is the ordinary process I am constantly walking. Therefore we
actually need parallel processes, as the matter of fact, in this process there
has been evolved multiple parallel processes together at the same period of time
and they certainly can assist and support each other.</span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">After all the work I mentioned in the
previous sharing, there left about half times of the hot flash occurrences in a
day comparing to the beginning stage. However, not long after I enjoyed the
accomplishment, I went to the opposite state of the mind. Obviously, at this
stage while focusing on the process of dealing with the symptom, I had manifested
the polarized mind reaction patterns and consequences towards the hot flash and
myself and the all treatment process, and also ignored and accepted the mind
process. Here is my observation.</span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">With the worrying and fearing of the symptom
in the beginning, to the exciting and amazing of the information gained from
kinesiology, and the desiring and expectations for the perfect outcome during
the dealing process, to the satisfaction and enjoyment of the accomplishment,
and then finally, I indulging myself in the disappointing and blaming for the
last part that seemed I cannot do anything more about them. Thus then I take
the chance to introspect the reaction process including the mind and physical
reactions and all the backchats in my DIP assignment which required me to
investigate the fear preprogramming pattern in daily life.</span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">One observation is that in the final stage
I observed the hot flashes still has a few emotional ones as well as plain heat
ones, my frustration can be easily triggered by the former, and then create
backchats patterns, except the believe that I got more responsibility for the
emotional ones, it seemed I also took on the emotional energy to create more energy
and personalities.</span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">And from what I was blaming myself and the
hot flash and the process, I see my hot flashes was in a way taking placed from
two kinds of resources or effects, one is the long-term mind pattern
consequence manifested in physical, one is the current backchats and reactions
from immediate or short-term environmental stimuli. I have learned from quantum
mind serious interviews from EQAFE that we can only be aware of the consequence
of the quantum mind’s and quantum physical’s effect, therefore what we can do
is to not to participate the reactions of the mind and to find the things
trigger the reactions and do self-forgiveness for the points and mind structure
to prevent from it in the future and thus change oneself. And through such
works I could and already reduce about half of the hot flashes, however it
would not be possible to just undo them all within such a short period of time,
but require deeper insights through time and also physical support, for the existence
of the symptom still shows me that my body is damaging itself through the long
term consequence condition.</span></div>
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<a href="https://www.blogger.com/null" name="_GoBack"></a><span lang="EN-US">On finding the answer to understand how far
my process can do about it and decide the treatment afterwards, I discussed it
with my buddy, and found her reply confirmed the answer already within me, then,
what I need to do is just to stop the old mind reaction patterns towards the
hot flash and myself and proceed the next stop, which is to go to the doctor
for </span><span lang="EN-US" style="background: white;">medical treatment to support my body.</span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">Now I just done a month’s dosage of the
hormone treatment and now I got only a couple of times of mild hot flash a day,
and then doctor offered me the continuous prescription and suggested me to use
it according to my own estimation. What I would do is to take as small amount
as possible with my process to ease the symptom.</span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">With the end of stomach point, I identified
other emotions that would relate to my hot flashes, such as irritation and
anxiety which related to my everyday life activities. They would involve in
very immediate environment stimuli and the reaction would start from a bigger
area of my body above from the middle chest and back area to the middle of my
head region and I would feel the heat slowly emerged from this part. It’s quite
similar with type of hot flash with the plain heat, but it can be sensed that
there was an uncomfortable emotional source which starts the whole thing.</span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">When I found these situations that different
types of emotions would relate to the immediate environment stimuli or
situations easily to be ignored in the busy life, from just a sight of
something, or a very quick perception of the mind that I were not aware of and there
even has no thought involved then the next thing inevitable is the setting off
of the hot flash, and from the observation I felt the panic towards my process,
I figured this is the kind of mind reactions as physical backchat happened in
the quantum mind and quantum physical levels described in the quantum mind
interview series of EQAFE, but how I can do anything to stop the reaction
processes from those things seemed randomly occurred around me now and then? God
knows how much countless things are there waiting really? Is it possible for me
to walk through them all?</span></div>
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<div class="MsoNormal">
<span lang="EN-US">However I also see at least the good news
is that through my hot flash experiences I proved there are things there reveal
themselves for me and thus I got chances to do something with them, better than
just sitting there and do nothing and react to what is there actually supporting
me, thus I decided to on the one hand to even slower my movement and thus to
face the irritation mind structure within me, and on the other hand to trace
back and recording those stimuli and instances from the environment while I
experience those hot flashes, they would be like when I was measuring some
proportions; picking something from a pile of things; dealing with a puzzle;
reading some information without understanding; a kind of exhibiting way of a
store, and so on. Thus the next time before I go into the similar environments
or join these similar activities I can remain myself to breath and focus on the
physical reality.</span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">And yes, it also worked, at least for those
I can identified circumstances I can just slow and calm down myself from rush
into them and thus prevent the irritations and thus the hot flash happening,
and from what has been worked successfully, I got more confidence to keep on
going dealing with these mind patterns.</span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">To be continue…</span></div>
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Tanya Chouhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04975074106657567552noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7896549109335478527.post-15986737700729042812016-08-27T09:57:00.000+08:002016-08-27T09:57:26.155+08:00Day 611—How I use my hot flash to support myself 4<div class="MsoNormal">
<span lang="EN-US">Day 611—How I
use my hot flash to support myself 4<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">My stomach point</span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">Remember I described about how my stomach
ulcer also became an initial point for episodes of hot flash within which I
would sense a</span><span lang="EN-US"> burst of
strong heat and painful feeling emerge from the middle of my stomach? </span><span lang="EN-US">So, in the next session of Kinesiology I asked about my stomach
point.</span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">I had ulcer since I was 13, and since that it
seemed I never really fully recovered from that, and it is always like having
some level of mild ulcer, and this situation also makes me not easy to sense
the changes and different emotions on solar plexus. Beside that I also have gastritis
like once a year. However, for dealing with all the stomach experiences for
such a long time, I was sort of used to it and getting along with it quite
alright.</span></div>
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<div class="MsoNormal">
<span lang="EN-US">What was testing out in kinesiology is that
it's in relation to the thoughts from violent, nasty and superior nature in my
mind that I react to with judgment and suppression, so the stomach problems
would be a consequence of my judging and hiding of those thoughts coming up in
my conscious mind, and furthermore, I became addicted to an over active mode as
a self-compromising way to deal with the pattern, for example, I would act too
fast and effective to correct my action towards the nature that I want to hide,
thus I didn’t slow down enough to see the process of the pattern and change the
judgment and suppression entirely, and within it, I realized quite
interestingly, there is such pattern as over correction and over action which
are still mind functions that imply suppression and self-judgment.</span></div>
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<div class="MsoNormal">
<span lang="EN-US">What I had being quite known about my stomach
history is that it was coming from how my family adults made efforts to oppress
my temper since I was a kid and how I nurture the mind in trying hard getting
all the evidences to fight back that I was better and right during my growing
process, and obviously I still didn’t gave up the self-judgment towards those
personalities and thus I was still confirming and defining myself as that was
who I am, so fortunately now I got the feedback from kinesiology to see how I
need to still working on it and to make absolute decision.</span></div>
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<div class="MsoNormal">
<span lang="EN-US">And for the part of self-compromising on
over active, I now can be more aware of from the introspection of the instances
of how I had activated the pattern in a hasting pace within working environment
in the near past, and within it I see how the whole pattern can be activated and
done within seconds within which I didn’t allow myself to see and only left the
sudden painful stomach there as consequence and then I realized how it is this
wave of ulcer as consequence coming from, so I can then through the realization
dealing with the pattern.</span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">However, since I was in the summer vacation
the work load was much less then, the pattern didn’t have much effect on my
stomach, and after I also had dealt with the stomach with watching my diet and
the treatment of camellia oil, with the gradually alleviated symptom, the hot
flash pattern of the stomach point was also gone.</span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">Day 610—How I
use my hot flash to support myself 3<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">Kinesiology <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">In the session
of Kinesiology the Kinesiologist told me that in relation to my hormone problem,
what</span><span lang="EN-US"> tested out was that mostly it has something to do
with my internal conversation in relation to a specific person which is my
father, and those backchats towards and in relation to my father are charged
with positive feelings as well as negative emotions and those emotions also been
tested out is insensitive, reserved, weary, cold, uncaring and unresponsive,
which already become my own emotions patterns through copying and learning from
and with my father to protect myself as a protection mechanism and those are
located in the mind level of subconscious, unconscious, quantum mind, quantum
physical.</span></div>
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<div class="MsoListParagraph" style="margin-left: 0cm; mso-para-margin-left: 0gd;">
<span lang="EN-US">Within the session I also crossed reference and clarified some other
questions related to hot flash and thus I knew the intensity and duration would
be influenced by the level of what is going on in the mind that I am
participating and believing in my backchat. And I also confirmed the royal
jelly and exercise is helping, also I can massage my foot to ground myself, and
I got some suggestions of EQAFE interviews to support my process.</span></div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span lang="EN-US">I was quite astonished and excited to know
all these information at once, and with the backchat in relation to my father I
recalled not long ago I had a thought about he didn’t response to my recent
sickness with a slight of those emotions attached to it and also some memories
of my childhood, however I actually dealt with the major conflicts and emotions
towards my father in my teenage years and that had made us quite in an equal
communicated relationship for a long time already.</span></div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span lang="EN-US">Then I realized, yes, those emotions and
personalities has become me already, and that belongs to one of my major personalities
and for recent two years since I am actively making friends and finding
potential partners and which is quite an emotional process…, so obviously, I
had applied those mind patterns to those potential partner relationships, it
could be the reason my hot flash was getting serious and it is clear that I still
had quite some mind patterns need to face and to stop the relevant thoughts and
memories and thus solve problems with my relationship and my body conditions.</span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span lang="EN-US">Now I got the
names and clues of emotions related to my relationships and personalities which
manifested as the backchat in the mind, so every time when the hot flash
coming, I can be more easily aware of and trace back to the internal
conversations and imaginations in my mind that had things to do with the
emotions and relationship personalities. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span lang="EN-US">It is quite an
interesting journey for me to investigate and analyze all the connections and
sources, and I also in the end of a day wrote down the memories I can assess to
those thoughts and emotions, and within the realization I deconstruct and do
self-forgiveness and commit myself to stop those internal conversation towards
those relationships. Since I had dealt with my relationships for years, it is
now more easy and effective, although there are still some of the hot flash
that I don’t have clear clue where they are coming from, however merely doing
this part had already reduced some of the occurrences, so the hot flash pattern everyday new become the immediate feedback point for how effective I can dealt
with and stop the relationship patterns.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">To be continue……<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">Day 609—How I
use my hot flash to support myself 2<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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My
observations</div>
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<span lang="EN-US">Then I
gradually found sometimes this depression burst becoming the very first part of
my hot flash, well perhaps it’s always is but I didn’t notice that because in
the beginning the hot flash was not so matured and strong enough. Then I wanted
to just stop it like those successful situations but found I actually cannot
stop it and had to wait until the whole body heat walked its own period. Since I
had walked my process and become more aware of my body, I decided to observe it
closer and took notes about the occurrences.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">I started to
note down every occurrence of the hot flash, includes the time, the
environment, the duration, and the intensity, and it’s about a dozen times a
day and a couple of times at night and it would wake me up now and then, and it
sometimes strong and long but sometimes weak and short, however, I didn’t found
the connection with the environment except the hot temperature but had this
feeling that it might has something to do with what I am thinking, but for me
those things happened in my head are the memories of old things, new ones, plans,
coming and going one after one as usual, which are things so familiar to me
within which I didn’t clearly see emotions that caught my attention, therefore
are there really a clear connections between them and the hot flash? how can I
see the connections?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">During that
time another thing happened to my body which is my old stomach ulcer problem backing
again, and it is the feeling that my stomach would feel a big chunk of something
there stuffed in the middle of my body and suffered more during digesting
process and all I know is that it has something to do with a period time of hard
working during which I maintained a certain level of anxiety.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">Thus I found
there are at least 3 different kinds of initial points to start a hot flash at
that stage:<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<!--[if !supportLists]--><span lang="EN-US">1.<span style="font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal;">
</span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="EN-US">A burst
of strong depression feeling occurred in the middle of my head region within
which I can sense a heated rusty choking smell thing gush in from behind my
nose and eyes area and then into the whole head, neck and upper buddy area<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<!--[if !supportLists]--><span lang="EN-US">2.<span style="font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal;">
</span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="EN-US">A burst
of strong heat and painful feeling emerge from the middle of my stomach area
and slowly up to the upper body area<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<!--[if !supportLists]--><span lang="EN-US">3.<span style="font-size: 7pt; font-stretch: normal; font-variant-numeric: normal;">
</span></span><!--[endif]--><span lang="EN-US">The plain
heat feeling slowly sneaky out of somewhere of my body and then eventually
cover my upper and other area of my body <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">And within
these observations I found the hot flash/hormone seemed to has its own live and
will and would exaggerate and centralize my emotion and body problem I already have
within me for a long time and that had manifested within the interaction of
events and my mind system during that stage, and also they would had something
do to with the hormone state. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span lang="EN-US">I then talked
about this situation with my buddy who supports me in my DIP process, she
suggested me to find the mind source of my hormone through kinesiology within
which we can use the professional’s muscle testing to know about things in the
physical level which myself cannot access yet. At this moment I realize this is
exactly where I can find the answers, so I scheduled a session right away.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">To be continue……<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">Day 608—How I
use my hot flash to support myself<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">Here I would
like to share my observation and work with the hot flash experience of my body to
provide some context for people who have the similar situation and also during
this process to support myself .<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">I was having
hormone problems since many years ago and which caused quite some body
conditions need to be taken care of. Until the summer 5 years ago, the hot
flash started coming, during that stage I already had an early menopause caused
by uterus surgery for a couple of years, and from medical knowledge I know this
hot flash caused by hormone imbalance belongs to one of the menopause syndromes
which makes autonomic nervous system become dysfunction. And there is another obvious
event during that time in my life was that I was dealing with a serious relationship
conflict, within which I had strong emotional waves up and down for quite some
time already. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">The hot flash
was quite strong since the beginning and about a dozen times a day, it’s the
feeling of body heating up within me and my head and neck would become red and
my upper body would sweat and then the whole body is just soaking in the
unbearable heat. Since I am already joining the course of DIP to start the
process of directing myself in life, I found there are always some emotional
reactions following every occurrence of hot flash, thus what I know about it is
to just stop the reactions and see the hot flash as it is, and found in this
way I can still get along with it. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">I decided not to
see the doctor because I am sure what they would do is the treatment of hormone
medicine, and I have heard long time ago that it may cause cancer and I don’t
want the risk so I just live with the uncomfortable. After that summer it
stopped and for a couple of years it just happened for a couple of months every
year and mostly in summer.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">Until last 2 years
I found it becomes more serious so I decided to actively deal with it since the
uncomfortable had affected my everyday life and I probably could find ways to
reduce the damage to my body and life to the minimum. So I went to see a doctor
and he suggested that since I still got some part of uterus there is a chance
to get cancer through using hormone, but since I don’t have family history of
cancer, he suggested me to use hormone but will give me some other prescription
like every two month to “wash it away”. So I started taking hormone treatment
and about after two months the hot flash was alleviated and then stopped, then
I stopped taking medicine and tried some natural hormone products suggested by
friend for a month then I am free from the hot flash for another several months
until it emerged again in this summer. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">However,
before I would take another round of the hormone medicine, I tried other things
instead, that is loyal jelly and small excises every day which I found can
reduce the strength and frequency, however only slightly, and I also found
other interesting observations about the hot flash patterns.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">The first
thing is that before this whole new wave of hot flash setting off, I found I would
have a kind of intensive and sudden depressive emotion burst within my body
which if I can noticed it and stop it right away without following or creating
any thoughts, then it would just stopped, which I saw it as a kind of achievement
of my process though I was not aware of the connection between the depression
bursts and their sources or trigger points, it would be like before I woke up
in the morning I usually found I was already playing with some memories in my
mind, and suddenly the depression just burst out and then I found it and stopped
it. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">Here a history
about my depression: I am actually quite familiar with the emotion since I was
a little kid, in the beginning it was just the uncomfortable feeling slowly
emerged within my body and I kind of hearing it said something like “I would
like to die”, “it makes no sense in this world” …, it was just an weird and
uneasy thing for me at that time, but with all the events and relationships connections
happened in my growing process, the depression had just become part of me and I
had spent much time in my life wanting to get rid of the uncomfortable feeling,
then until recently I found it sometimes become this intensive and sudden
formation.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">To be continue……<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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